‘I am having an emotional affair with my co-worker…’

« I’ve been married [for] four years, been with my wife for seven total, » Sebastian told Reddit.

« She’s a wonderful person, we have very similar temperaments and rarely argue, and she’s very attractive. »

When Sebastian started a new job and started meeting more like-minded people, the change in his surroundings highlighted a looming gulf between him and his wife.

« I moved offices within my company and ended up sitting next to a new woman and working on a project with her, » said Sebastian.

« I didn’t take too much notice of her at first, though I did think she was cute. »

Sebastian revealed: « But it quickly became clear that she and I had palpable chemistry.

« I’ve tried to reflect and remember whether I had this kind of chemistry with my wife; I really don’t think that I did. »

Sebastian started to notice that he and his wife don’t connect on a deep level or have meaningful interactions as their interests are disjointed.

« A lot of our time together is spent at a restaurant with nothing to talk about or watching a TV show that I’m not particularly interested in, » Sebastian reflected.

« That’s not to say that we never do anything fun, but on the other hand, it’s often an activity that I might have just as much or more fun doing with another one of my friends. »

Turning his attention to the other woman, Sebastian said: « My coworker and I connect on many different levels, share a lot of the same passions, and have great conversations and laughs together.

« So my coworker and I began spending free time at work together, and later, outside of work. »

The pair started going to dinners together, and he’s now spent some time with her friends.

« She’s very playfully touchy, » said Sebastian. « We also chat online quite a bit, both at work (even though we sit right next to each other) and outside of work. »

While admitting he’s feeling guilty for all the « sneaking around », he’s keen to point out that the emotional connection hasn’t turned physical… yet.

« I really don’t want to cross that line while still married, » Sebastian assured, adding: « But what I am leaning towards doing is telling my coworker how I really feel… »

He elaborated: « I have strong feelings for her and I realise I have a lot of baggage, but if she feels the same I’m willing to upend my life and give things a chance. »

But Sebastian pondered: « Is this a case of the new woman being new and exciting and will I just get bored again? »

*Names have been changed.